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Dear Suki
By BG from Midlands Area
Dear Suki, I have really have a problem. It all started a year ago i got
into a famous uni near the Midlands and started my BSC degree<Course
Witheld>. I started off really badly and needed help from my tutor who
was from America. I used to go and seek assistance from her during my
free time and gradually i got better in my course (i will not reveal was
course i am doing as i can be traced like that).
Anyway one day she told me too meet her in the canteen as she was out for
lunch, i met her there, and she really felt like having a pizza down the
local pizza place. There we ordered our food and drinks, afterwards we
went to the local pub and both of us got stoned then she insisted that we
discuss my problem at her place, Thats when we had our first `embrace`.
After we sobered up we releasded what we had done and i promptly left. I
avoided her for a few days. After about 2 weeks i decided to talk, then
it became aparent that the `embrace` had feeling for us, and that we were
in love. (Note the pizza place we went to, my girlfriends, friends,
Boyfriend worked there but i didn`t know about this until i met him
later, when it was too late)
Eventually my girlfriend started to get suspicous after she went to the
local pizza place we went to and spoke to <name withheld> who she knew
well and he told her about us. She was not amused and dumped me
straight. But she didnt stop there. My (so called) freinds found out,
and they started to post private messages on the internal network of
computers in the uni and eventually she got wind of it and came to me.
The Dean of the uni found out too and called us both in we denied the
accusations, said that she would lose her job and he make sure that she
would never get another job again. She denied it again. We were forced
to see less of each other.
Now my course is nearly over and i`m asking her too leave with me but she
is too scared that her career will be ruined, plus i think she is up the
spout and i think she is it from hiding me. Please help. I dont know
what to do especially as my parents dont know about this.
I am 22 now and she is 27
<NOTE> miggybyte has changed certain parts of the above letter to protect
the parties involved.
Dear BG,
The first thing you need to do is to find out for certain whether or not
your tutor is pregnant or not. If she is then it's imperative that she
gets expert medical attention. Of course if she is pregnant, then you
are going to need to do a lot of talking. She may be hiding it from you
at the moment because she is unsure of your reaction. Be as supportive
as you can, as she'll need help deciding whether or not to go ahead with
the pregnancy.
Now that your course is nearly over I can see no reason why you shouldn't
continue with your relationship. It needn't affect her career adversely;
surely there are other universities she could transfer to if she wants to
be with you? This is the main issue you need to discuss - whether you
both see a future in this relationship or not. Does she want to be with
you, or is the fear of ruining her career merely a convenient opt-out
clause? Now that you are no longer in the tutor/pupil relationship there
should be nothing preventing you both from making a go of things, if you
both want to.
If she does turn out to be pregnant, and she does decide to keep the
baby, then your parents are going to have to know eventually. It's
probably best to tell them sooner rather than later. Once they've got
over the initial shock they may turn out to be very supportive - stranger
things have happened. You have to work out what you want, as well. Are
you prepared to take on a baby at 22? It's only fair to discuss these
things with her, then you both know where you stand.
Do let me know how things work out,
Suki
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